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Dear Maggie,
I found you surfing the web last night "by
accident" as alot of others have I'm sure. I was googling "Does the
Universe give you signs". That's when I found your amazing website. Your
website and deep insights really uplifted me. I fell asleep last night
feeling hopeful and woke up in a good mood.
I am a military wife and mother. I
have an awesome husband of 4 years and a 17 year old daughter. I have a
cinderella story life thanks to him. We recently moved from Tampa Fl to
Port Jeff NY. We have been here 4 months. This is my second military
move so moving is not something I am used to quite yet. Anyway I am
having a very difficult time adjusting to my "new life in NY." I have
basically cried almost every day for 4 months. I used to be a very happy
spiritual person living the dream but now I feel lost confused and not
sure what I am meant to do with my life. Although we only live in Fl for
3 years my heart aches for Florida. I feel like my destiny is still
there and I just want to run away back to Florida but I do not have the
financial means and also do not want to upset my family. I tell myself
that if it is meant to be I will return to Florida in the future. I am
almost 35.
I am conflicted with should I focus
on going back to school here or should my husband and I try to have a
baby. Having my daughter so young I never finished college. I have an
amazing 17 year old daughter from a previous relationship. Though I feel
the universe is telling me it is time to have another baby I am on the
fence about a few things. I also worry having a baby will hinder me
returning to Florida if I decide to but I am constantly reminded I am
not getting any younger and the time is now to have a baby.
I already am a very spiritual
person. Dr. Wayne Dyer, James Redfield, Louise L Hay just some of my fav
authors. I practice creative visualization, law of Attraction and have
for years. I am journeling and I am Reiki Level 1 certified. So I am
very familiar with positive affirmations, mediation e! tc..yet my heart
aches and I feel stuck. Anyway I just wanted to ask you to add me to the
bliss list. Also ask you if you have any insights for me and to thank
you for what you do and for this amazing website. Thanks! Sorry if I
gave to much information, lol.
Blessings,
Deb :)
Dear Deb,
Yes, of course I've added you to my
bliss list! :) I'm so happy my website has brought you a little peace! That was my intention from the start. We are all connected.
It sounds like you are searching.
It also sounds like you've got a lot of fires brewing and you're not
sure which one to focus on. I've heard the saying, "When in doubt, do
nothing". Seriously, it's a lot to think about. A new baby is a big
deal. And you want to be settled if you are wanting another baby.
However, it has to be YOUR wish. Sounds like you are doing a lot for
OTHER people and sacrificing a whole bunch.
Moving out of an area you so
totally resonate with and heartbreaking. I know since I've moved
probably every two years of my life. Just when I thought we were settled
and I was finally making friends, we were uprooted again. Though it has
given me the new goal of finally setting down roots and sticking it
out. Kinda nice to have that as my goal. :) Suffice it to say I can
relate. However, you also know the spiritual side of things. Everything
happens for a reason. Everything. It could be things have not totally
presented themselves to you yet in the location you are now. We never
know the entire story. It could be that you are to bring your spiritual
fire to those nearest you who have not been exposed to it like you have.
And it can also be that you are meant to stay for a while and enjoy
family life, while growing on the inside and then having the goal to
move back to Florida when the time is just absolutely perfectly Divine.
But you are screaming to move to
Florida so firstly you must listen to your gut. Your intuition never
steers you wrong. Were there warning signs prior to leaving Florida that
you ignored? Your soul always knows the truth. So if you are meant to
move have a discussion with your Husband, if you haven't. Let him know
how you are feeling. Listen to his thoughts about the subject? Sometimes
we must endure something we don't totally like to get us out of our
comfort zone. It's what helps us grow so strong inside.
I feel that you can't debate
another child if you are not feeling totally happy where you are and not
feeling totally supported with your soul's inner yearnings. You must
bring forth life on a foundation of stability and happiness.
Fulfillment. If not, things will go amiss and be much more challenging.
Right now you have the CHOICE. It's in these ascension times that we
have the choice! We can choose what we DESIRE. We can then DECIDE we can
and will do it and go for it! What is at your heart of hearts?
Can you stick it out in New York,
have a talk with your Husband and see if he will align with your goals
to eventually move back to Florida? If he is willing to align with you
and therefore vibrate together with you on a like goal, then you've got
something beautiful to work with. If he doesn't have a desire to move or
even discuss it, it's something you must think long and hard about. You
already have a child to think about.
I've been in the same situation and
got divorced when my son was eight months old. I was perfectly happy to
have made this decision. One of the best decisions of my life was
leaving an unhappy, sinking-pit-of-doom relationship. But that was my
experience and my reality at the time. It made my life slightly more
challenging at first but much more happy and thriving thereafter! You
just KNOW and you take that action when your soul speaks to you.
Take a few minutes ALL TO YOURSELF.
In a quiet space in your home during a quiet time take a few minutes to
meditate on this. Really set the intention that the answers will come
regarding your situation. Turn on the Reiki to yourself. Ask your guides
and Angels to present the answers in a way that you would easily
understand and with a powerful nudge from your intuition. Breathe and
focus only on your breath for a few moments. Have calm music playing if
that will assist you. When you've quieted your mind and feel that
connection then ask one question at a time. Such as: Should I move?
.....space in between....wait for it... Just allow it to come to you if
it will. This knowing will present you with a new question. If the
answer deep in your belly says stay you may want to ask if you are ready
to have a baby yet.
Or just let the pregnancy happen
when or if it is meant to without putting much worry or effort into it.
When I started getting visions or "warnings" of a new child to come
three years prior to even meeting my Husband, I made the intention right
then. I said, "if this is to happen it happens with financial stability
and that both my partner and I are happy about this baby and live life
happily thriving while our child grows up". So far I got my wish and
even got to name her what she wanted and kept sending to me even prior
to her being conceived.
If during your meditation you are
still not receiving a clear answer, then intend that this sends forth a
strong request to receive answers in your dreams and waking life.
Synchronicities will occur that will lead you in the right direction. An
overheard conversation may provide clarity. A television program, movie
or a passing car with a license plate that has an answer! You just
never know. But only you can definitely hear the call of your Soul.
Warrior II